A good way to think of me is like Mr. Spock from Star Trek,
my emotions are there below the surface and very strong, but I often refuse to
acknowledge or show them, many times it's because I can't describe them or
perhaps I feel I'll be ridiculed or thought weak. Unfortunately, unlike Spock
there is no cool death-grip and a much shorter short-term memory. Like Spock I value
logic, truth, and enlightenment over the touchy feely stuff, particularly when someone’s
gut feeling is wrong and nor even close. That isn’t to say I don’t appreciate or
have feelings, but the other concepts of logic and truth are easier to grok.
Just like Spock, I am at my best when I embrace both my
social/emotional and my logical sides. It seems this will be a life journey,
especially since I went from being extremely shy to working with the public,
albeit in small groups at a time. Progress is being made integrating my logical,
analytical self with the side that wants to jump with joy, or weep sorrowfully.
My sense of humor taps both sides already, I love a good joke, but many
involving social situations aren’t funny to me and I need someone to explain
these jokes to me sometimes.
After a day "socializing" I do need alone time to
regenerate (oh snap, this is like Spock's meditating) and recover. I process
much of what I see of other people’s interactions, and how to react social
situations using my analytical brain. My social brain skates trough life like a
super spoiled kid, or a kid dropped on its head with its favorite sibling or a
close friend covering for all its little mistakes.
Just like a real naïve kid, my social brain sometimes really
screws things up when its champion (the sibling or understanding friend, aka my
logical brain) has their back turned for a moment. An example is how I have
learned most questions where a female asks me about her looks are loaded, I cannot
tell which situations warrant a particular answer, and which are traps. I don’t
know when to say or not to say, “oh that looks good,” and “you don't look fat”,
so my default is not to answer and try to change the subject to more familiar
Obviously social brain tried to answer these queries once or
twice while logical brain was preoccupied with something else or logical didn't
correctly flag the questions for deeper review. So now logical brain sounds the
klaxon in these situations making me lock-up like a rusty mechanism, this prevents one type of harm while making me look very goofy rather than taking
the time to re-analyze the situation for what type of answer is required.
Why the alone time? Logical brain uses more energy. If a
typical person sits around doing math equations for hours straight, they will
want to relax by vegging or socializing. Remember anytime I am socializing, I'm
running figures and stats through my analytical brain, and if I was already
doing mentally exhausting work, hanging out with more than one or two close
friends pushes me past capacity, making me more error prone or agitated. This
is the same as if a typical person is pushed just a bit too far on those same equations,
they get angry and short with people, they make more mistakes on the task, and
if pushed far enough, they don't socialize either, naptime.
Wait, did I just describe a stereotypical geek? Yep, Aspies
are often driven to fields like research, engineering, computer science,
architecture, music, etc., though they are individuals just as varied as
typical people, but it seems easier to see Aspies in these areas than others.
I didn't fit in with the normal kids and I was not truly
special-ed, I was both gifted and in need of remedial organizational skills. In
middle school, the teachers and my parents agreed it was best I just type
everything rather than deal with the hand written stuff. You can see how much
more I write with a keyboard, even the virtual keyboard on a phone.
Oh my!, this was supposed to be a quick note on the phone so I
didn't forget what I ate; I'll polish the rough edges and post this.
Workout and food journal
Yesterday’s other foods 4/13
- Snack: Sleeve of Smarties like at
any party or found in a piñata.
- Dinner: Mexican restaurant: bean
burrito, cheese enchilada, beans, rice, 2 glasses of coke with restaurant
typical amount of ice. Vegetarian item E, at Yucatan in Sumter.
Today’s foods and workout 4/14
- 3 sets Speed Jacks
- 3 sets Pushups
- 3 Wall Sits
- 3 sets bird-dog
172.8 pounds with 19.5% fat and 55% total body water
Breakfast: Cocoa - two sleeves of Swiss Miss
Lunch: Bottle water, Japanese vegetables, and rice plate
(Osaka in Sumter) can of coke
Dinner: Three pretzels with dipping sauce, 1.75 cokes with
restaurant amount of ice both today's and yesterday’s cokes were in the
standard coke and restaurant co-branded plastic glasses (plastic)
Maureen and I saw “Mirror Mirror”, I enjoyed it but it felt
like the story dragged in a few places and it had a good amount of funny bits.
Pami, John Robert, Gabby & I saw the new 3 Stooges movie, it was pretty funny, it probably would have been even better for someone who remembers any of the original program.
Today's "foods" were all processed junk food, this morning's weigh-in: 173.0 pounds, 19.5% fat, 55% total body water.
This post brought to you from deep within the thought-stream of Tangent.